Have you ever found yourself in a position where there is a negative experience that continues to happen in your life over and over. When you feel like you’re in the Chevy Chase movie Groundhog Day and no matter what you do you can’t seem to change the situation in your life. It’s very easy to blame others or situations for problems that we are having in life. We can blame our financial or career woes on the economy, our relationship issues on the other people in our lives, our health issues on our genes, and our excessive weight on our hormones or metabolism; however, the truth is that all situations, good and bad, in our lives are created by our own thoughts and beliefs about ourselves.
Your outer world is a direct reflection of your inner world. The majority of these thoughts and beliefs are unconscious. When you find situations in your life that do not seem to get better, no matter what you try, there is definitely a negative belief lurking in your unconscious. Because these beliefs are unconscious, you can’t seem to see the problem and therefore, a solution that will remedy the situation cannot emerge. This is a perfect time to dive in and explore what negative belief is holding you back from living your most awesome life. Here is a seven step solid process that I have been teaching to my clients for many, many years. I have experienced countless miracles.
Step 1: Go Inside.
Put a spiritual practice in place for at least 10 minutes a day. Take the time to sit and relax and breathe. I suggest at least 10 minutes however it can be as long as you like. Make it a time when you will not be disturbed. The same time during the day is optimal, however if that is not possible, it’s ok. You might want to light a candle and play some nice inspirational music. It is totally up to you. Transformational work takes a lot of energy so you want to treat yourself very well during this time.
Step 2: Connect with your feelings.
Begin to Journal on your life story. Think about the most traumatic times in your life. Journal on the feelings that came up for you at the time of the initial trauma. Are you still emotionally charged by those experiences? Journal on what you came away with. What did you make those situations mean about you? What negative belief did you take away from those experiences? (I.e. I’m not good enough, I’m not worthy, I’m stupid).
Step 3: Heal from the trauma.
Really sit with those feelings. Let the feelings come up. I promise you won’t die. This is the time to be prepared to watch for the resistance. You may want to eat, drink, gossip, or do whatever it is that you do to numb your feelings. Please resist these urges. This is a critical point. It can be a painful time; however, if you can sit through these emotions, they will pass. Note where you feel these feelings in your body. Write down the negative beliefs that you took on based upon your own unique life experience. This is a good time to talk to someone who will support you through your process.
Step 4: Find the gift.
Eventually you will see the gift in these negative experiences. I often hear those who were abused say that they have learned how to forgive and have compassion for others in similar situations. I hear those that grew up with “I am stupid” have to prove to the world otherwise and have earned graduate degrees. This negative belief drove them to learn and educate themselves and become wonderful teachers. Some “I’m not good enough-ers” are helping so many people in the world because they get their feelings of goodness from helping. Really examine how these negative beliefs shaped your life in a positive way.
Step 5: Let go of the negative beliefs.
You can do a letting go meditation and ask that they be taken from you. You can actually write the negative beliefs down on a piece of paper and burn them. Be creative. You will know you have let go when your life begins to shift.
Step 6: Turn it around.
Create positive affirmations and post them where they are visual to you throughout the day. Read them when you get up, periodically throughout the day, and before you go to bed. Write them as if it has always been that way for you. “I have always been worthy of love”, “I have always been very smart” “I have always felt safe and secure”
Step 7: Create a new future.
A Vision Board is a very powerful tool that can help you bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to go. By spending time relaxing and searching for pictures, words, colors, or anything that represents or pleases you can become a very meditative experience. The mind relaxes and lets go; and the creative process begins. Once you have connected with the pictures that inspire you, arrange them on a poster board in a pleasing way. Your board becomes a collage of pleasing pictures, scenes, colors, and words that speak to you. You may be surprised by what is created. It can be fun to name your creation, i.e. serenity, new beginnings, fireworks, etc……Place it a place where you can see it and enjoy it on a daily basis. Notice what happens in time.
Following these steps will help you to make conscious those negative beliefs that are wreaking havoc on your life. Once these negative beliefs are cleared your life will change and miracles will emerge.
Contributor: Catherine Anesi
Worker and a Reiki Master. She is a cognitive behavioral therapist with a specialty in *EMDR whose focus is in treating anxiety disorders, as well as PTSD, depression, divorce & family support. Cathy’s sessions are unique in that she utilizes Reiki energy combined with traditional psychotherapy where appropriate. This method is an extremely effective way to help clients process sometimes painful emotional issues easily in an environment of support and healing.Cathy’s passion is facilitating grou
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